Reflections on Pregnancy

In just a few more days, a new baby will join quanta and I here at the Pond. So far I am feeling fine, but I am also well aware that things are moving along. Mostly though, I’m tired. I’m beginning to suspect that I’m not going to get that mythical burst of energy before I go into labour. Not that I particularly need it, since the house is clean and everything is ready for the baby. Although, there are all those baby announcements that should at least get addressed soon…

Seriously though, this is an exciting and scary time. I can’t wait to hold my baby, but I’m also concerned about his healthy and happiness, and wonder if we will be able to provide him with a good life. These are things all new parents worry about, I’m sure. Life, I know, will proceed the way it will proceed. The baby will either be colicky or not, he will either happily breastfeed or not. Although he is a helpless being (at least for a little while) he is also his own person. All quanta and I can do is provide love and support.

In some respects I am looking forward to the end of my pregnancy. Spending the last nine months carry around a baby has been surprisingly easy (except for two and a half months of Nausea and Vomiting of Pregnancy [a more severe form of morning sickness]). I’ve enjoyed the closeness that I feel has developed between the baby and me. But, I’m also looking forward to getting my body back, and to eventually eating and drinking what I like again. (I miss sushi!) I hope that I will also eventually find time to return to my spiritual pursuits and reconnect with the Tarot, both things that just haven’t seemed to work during my pregnancy. Oh yes, and it will be heaven to be able to sleep on my back again!

Things will likely be quiet around here for a little while. The baby is due on the 15th, but could show up any time. With some luck, it will be after I’ve managed to get in one more full night of sleep.

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Q-Ray and the Ancient Chinese Art of Scamming

Q-Ray bracelets make me laugh. Maybe it is the commercial, where, in one version yoga is said to be an “ancient Chinese art”, and a runner attributes her success to the bracelet…and possibly to her new coach. It may be because that the little ice block they use to display the bracelet in the commercial is really a place-card holder turned upside down. Or it could be that it reminds me of the weird Chinese guy and his long-life rings. (Sorry, no link for that one.) Regardless of the unlikeliness of a bracelet being able to mitigate pain, people seem to love them. When I worked at a gift shop, we sold similar looking perfectly normal silver bracelets (known as Taurus bracelets) that people snapped up because they said they worked just the same. Colour me skeptical.

Back in November, Canada’s excellent show Marketplace did an expose on the Q-Ray bracelet, which you can see here: Buying Belief. It is a long video, but well worth watching if you are tempted to buy one of these things. In short, the bracelets aren’t ionized like the commercials claimed, and they don’t do a darn thing. The president of the American branch of the Q-Ray company even admitted in court that he made up the ionization claim. But it is based on traditional Chinese medicine, both he and his son say. (quanta, my darling Chinese husband, believes that is pure bunk too.)

The sad thing is all the people in the Marketplace video who really believe in the powers of the Q-Ray. It is obviously the placebo effect in action. And if that is the case, is it really so bad? Well, I think that selling people false hope at $70-$300 at a time is awful. I’ve lived with years of chronic pain, so I am well aware of how desperately people seek anything that will give them relief. I have learned, though, that it is better to find ways to relieve the pain, such as physiotherapy, then to find ways to cover it up or pretend it doesn’t exist.

In November, the US courts ruled against Q-Ray and its claims of pain relief. This past Monday, the United States Court of Appeals of the Seventh Circuit upheld the ruling, ordering Q-Ray to return $16M to purchased of their bracelets. If you bought a Q-Ray between January 1, 2000 and June 30, 2003 (when the commercials claimed pain relief), call the FTC Q-Ray Hotline at 202-326-2063 in order to find out how to get a refund.

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Understanding “Religious” War

There are a lot of things I don’t understand about the world. I don’t understand people who murder or rape or rob; I don’t understand why politicians lie. I don’t understand why Canada is one of the most taxed nations on Earth. The things I have the greatest difficulty understanding, though, generally have to do with religion in one shape or another.

Take, for example, the ongoing conflict in Israel. I just can’t wrap my head around why people keep blowing each other up. quanta tells me it is mostly over land, with religion used as an excuse. It just happens that people of one faith want the land the people of another faith are on, and vice versa.

Early this week I watched a documentary about the partition of India at the end of the British colonial rule. I just am not able to understand why people of different religions, who had lived in the same village for centuries, would suddenly insist that their neighbours must move to the other side of the sub-continent just because they belong to a different faith. It is my understanding, though a friend, that something similar happened when Bangladesh (once East Pakistan) declared its independence from West Pakistan. The results of all of this today: the on going Hindu and Muslim fighting we see on the news nearly every night, along with the destruction of precious religious landmarks.

I think that my view of religion is what makes it difficult for me to understand these (and many, many more) conflicts. First, I believe religion is intensely personal, and what you believe has no effect on me, just as what I believe has no effect on you. Then there is unverified personal gnosis–I’m willing to buy that your god spoke to you, but whatever he said has no bearing on me unless, and until, he actually speaks to me. And, the big one, I know there is no one path to spirituality and salvation (if that is what you are looking for). No one religion is right for everyone, everywhere.

To see how religion has spread across the world, take a look at this map of the history of religion from Maps of War. It doesn’t make religious conflicts easier to swallow, but it does make them a little easier to place into context.




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Winding Down the Year

While both Wiccans and Christians celebrate the rebirth of their respective gods (more or less) at the same time, the lead up to the event couldn’t be more different. To Wiccans, the days between November Eve/Samhain (October 31st) and Winter Solstice/Yule (approx. December 21s) are meant to be a time to slow down and mourn the death of the god. For most North American Christians, November and December are the busiest time of year, with everyone rushing from mall to office party to family event and back to the mall, and then off to church.

As with all generalizations, though, there are plenty of exceptions. There are those Wiccans who are just as caught up in the yearly gift giving and parting frenzy as anyone else (and I admit to being one until a few years ago), and there are those Christians who slow down during this time to honour what the birth of Jesus meant for humankind. (Just because I’m not Christian doesn’t mean I don’t think that Jesus wasn’t a pretty cool guy.)

Growing up, it was always the week between Christmas and New Year’s Day that was the downtime for the year for me. Presents had been opened, the turkey mostly eaten, and family gone home. Now it is still a nice time to relax. Holiday visiting is done, and quanta is off work for at least a few days more. It is all the more sweet this year, since we are also counting down our last few weeks as a couple – the baby will arrive sometime before the end of January and make us into a trio. 2008 will be much different then 2007, but the changes will be welcome, even if they bring sadness, but most especially if they bring happiness.

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Blogging Between the Worlds

Generally I don’t like to join things like Top 100 lists or banner exchanges due to the often low quality of some or the sites that are included. It seems that the good, great and excellent sites are easily lost in the crush of the merely mediocre. However, I did recently decide to join a new Pagan Blogger’s Top 100 Site, Blogging Between the Worlds. So far there are only a few sites, the majority of look like they will provide excellent reading material for a long time to come. I am particularly enjoying The Sacred Space by R.E.

If you would like to vote for this site, please click the image below or look for the Blogging Between the Worlds image in the sidebar.






Can anyone recommend a good Top 100 or link exchange for Pagan sites? I just haven’t been able to find one.

One more thing, my newest obsession: Grimoire Companion Insert Pages Pack – beautifully illustrated, lined, loose-leaf pages for grimoires and Books of Shadows. One please! (I can’t draw to save my life!)

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Chalk River Closure

Nuclear energy has received much bad press over the decades–Chernobyl and Three Mile Island come to mind immediately. Nuclear reactors are used to do more then power our computers and Xboxes–they can produce a radioisotope used in medical diagnostic tests for things such as cancer, bone disorders, and cardiovascular diseases. Something to remember the next time a debate about nuclear reactors starts among your friends.

I bring this up today not because I’ve suddenly gone pro-nuclear or because I am trying relive those few short days I consider Nuclear Engineering (no laughing!). Rather, I bring it up because the temporary closure the nuclear reactor at Chalk River, ON (where a friend works) has lead to a world-wide shortage of this medical radioisotope. This means that an untold number of people are having much needed diagnostic tests delayed until the reactor reopens and/or the radioisotope can be obtained from one of the two other reactors in the world that produce it.

Years ago I underwent a bone scan that made use of this radioisotope. It wasn’t a fun experience, but I was very thankful to learn that there was nothing seriously amiss with my bones. I can well understand how distressed those waiting for diagnostic test must be. I am especially aware because of a friend of the family, who has had one major and two minor heart attacks in the past week, is currently waiting for a test that is being delayed until the hospital can find a supply of this radioisotope.

Sadly, there was little that could have been done to prevent this shortage. The AECL is doing the right thing by taking time to make necessary repairs, and hospitals could not have stockpiled the radioisotope due to its short shelf life. Hopefully the reactor will be functioning again before the expected January timeline, and hopefully all those patiently and desperately awaiting tests will receive them quickly.

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Mom Message Boards

Being my normal hermit-like self, I haven’t joined any pregnant mom clubs/message boards or taken any childbirth classes where I will be forced to make friends with other people. I’ve managed to find plenty of support through my family, doctor and books. And since I feel happy and as prepared as I expect I can be, I don’t think I’m missing out on much.

Today, out of curiosity, I decided to take a look at a message board for moms due in January 2008. I thought that maybe there was some sort of camaraderie that I’m missing out on. Sadly, I have to say I was very disappointed with what I found. The message board seemed more like it was there to help the women either feed on their fears, pass bad advice, or complain. For example, one women with 7+ weeks to go before her due date is worried that her baby hasn’t turned yet, and the other women think her decision to seeking an elective C-section is great. What?! It isn’t unheard of for a baby to remain breech until a few days before labour begins. I think an elective C-section is a drastic step to take just because the baby isn’t ready to stand on his head just yet. My baby has turned, but my OB has said it is fine either way at this point (also 7 weeks to go), because there is still plenty of time for him to turn again… and again. (Yay. 🙁 )

There is also a thread dedicated to women gnashing their teeth over the fact that car seats bought in the US cannot be used in Canada. Many of them plan to do so anyway, even though it could result in fines over $500 and invalidation of car and/or life insurance if there is an accident. I will admit it does suck (quanta and I wanted to get a car seat in the US too, since they are a good deal cheaper), but we have laws for a reason and I’m not willing to risk my baby’s life to save a few dollars. And don’t get me started on the thread about methods to get your labour to start early! Dangerous!!

I don’t know if my annoyance at these threads (and many others) is due to hormones, my general dislike of people, or a bad nights sleep. Maybe I’m right, or maybe I’m wrong to be annoyed. But, as is often the case, I find these message boards to be a place where like-minded people get together to support each other’s ideas, no matter how ill conceived they may be.

Latest obsession: Ju-Ju-Be Be All Diaper Bag. I am turning into a Yuppie Mom. Yikes.

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