Site News re. Comments

Although I now has access to this blog, the comments are current off line. We have been getting far too much comment spam, and we were slowing down our service providers servers because of this. So, until we upgrade to Movable Type 3, or find some other solution to our spam problem, comments will be offline. If you would like to comment on an entry, please feel free to email me.

Thank you to Bec from Fat Lil Wytch for reminding me that my comments were down. 🙂

And I have to admit that I’m a little annoyed that I’m now stalled at 299 comments. So close to 300, yet so far!

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Mrs. quanta

Late Wednesday afternoon I become Mrs. quanta. It was a hot and humid day, but it couldn’t have been more beautiful then to get married at a Mexican resort surrounded by fountains and water. The most important members of our family were there, along with a few close friends. I felt very loved, knowing that they had come all that way to see us get married.

The entire vacation was wonderful. I felt so lucky to be able to enjoy quiet afternoons on the balcony, just reading and thinking. I also had so much fun swimming in an ocean (the Pacific) for the first time. I wasn’t able to go outside as much as I would have liked because of my fair skin, but I still enjoyed myself a lot.

I’m not sure if I would travel back to Mexico any time soon, though. The resort was great, but I was amazed at the amount of poverty that we saw on our way from the airport. I felt guilty enjoying myself at the resort. quanta said that by being there we were helping to employ a lot of people, but that did nothing to relieve my guilty feelings. It is a beautiful country though, and one I would like to explore further one day.

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Not Knowing How to Help

There have been many disasters around the world since I started writing this blog–Iraq, Beslan, the Indonesian Tsunami, Katrina, the three large hurricanes of 2004, the bombings in London and elsewhere, etc., etc. I’ve written very little about these events, mostly because I don’t know what to say. I feel like any words I write, sitting in the comfort of my home, are all but pointless and maybe even a little offensive. I mean, what do I know about surviving a disaster? I’ve never lost my home to flood waters or fire and I’ve never lost a loved one to war.

I do my best in my own small way to help, though. I donate money to the Red Cross and I donate blood to Canadian Blood Services. I think sometimes that I should donate my time, maybe go somewhere to help some people, but I know that I’m not strong enough (emotionally and physically) to be of any good. Beyond that, all I can do is remember the affected people, and all of humanity, in my prayers to the Lord and Lady.

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What is Rich?

My quanta has just posted an entry that has made me re-evaluate him a little bit (For Richer or Poorer). We grew up in very different socioeconomic groups, and sometimes we have a little trouble relating.

I lived in Hamilton, a very blue collar city, and my family had just enough money to get by. We managed get our luxuries by use of credit card. My parents are wonderful people and they did their very best, but eventually the money situation just got away from them. (They are doing just fine now, though.) And even though quanta and I make more money then they do now, they still do everything in their power to help us.

quanta grew up in Unionville, in a rather well-off neighbourhood. His parents always had lots of money, and even sent quanta and his sister to private school. But even though they had money, they rarely spent any. It was always to be saved and spent only on necessities. I wonder sometimes if I didn’t have more luxuries then quanta.

quanta and I clash when it comes to the idea of spending money on little luxuries. I see it as harmless, but to him every dollar must be saved for a rainy day. All in all, I think we manage to balance each other out nicely, but I often wish he had a little better idea of what it is like to not have enough money. His recent blog entry (see above) makes me realize that he is a little more aware then I thought. And I think that the recent events in the southern U.S., especially New Orleans, is making us all aware what it could be like to really have no money and nothing at all.

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One More Month of Freedom

In one month quanta and I will be getting married. One more short month and I become Mrs. quanta. I am excited and nervous. Even though we have been living together for four years, I still see this as a new beginning. I have decided to change my name, so, in some respects, it will also be a new me in one month too.

I’m also feeling much better about the whole family thing too. quanta parent’s are definitely not attending our wedding, nor have they given us their blessing. But, thankfully, his mother’s family seems very happy for us. Last Sunday fourteen of them (including quanta’s grandmother!) descended on our little apartment and helped us celebrate our upcoming wedding. We were given a beautiful Chinese-style picture painted by one aunt, a lovely picture frame from another, and a jade bracelet for me from the third aunt. We then all went out for dinner, and I felt like part of the family.

Truth be told, I will actually be very glad when all this wedding stuff is over. It costs so much money and takes so much time. Of course, all that will mean nothing when our wedding day finally comes.

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I’m Rubenesque

I know I’ve mentioned my weight a few times in the past. I’ve described myself as curvy, Rubenesque, and even a little chubby. Lately I’ve been catching glimpses of myself in the mirror and I’m very surprised by what I am seeing. I am now well within the realm of chubby and still gaining. I feel tired and yucky.

Normally if you asked me if I was content with my body and weight I would say yes, more or less. But I’ve come to realize that the image I hold in my head doesn’t match the reality of the number on the scale.

I’ve said so many times before that I am going to make changes, so I’m not really sure how to make this time different. Something has to change though. I think sometimes of the Rede, and I know that continuing the way I am is and will cause harm to me.

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More Subway Trouble

It was another fabulous day here in Toronto. The TTC was closed down again while I was on my way to work. Apparently, some asshat threw some luggage on the track and every freaked out thinking it was a bomb. Better safe then sorry, of course, but I just wish it would stop happening when I am on my way to work. At least this time I didn’t have to walk over 3km to get to work. There is always a silver lining. 😛

And in honour of Overheard in New York I’d like to share a little tidbit I heard as we were all rushing from the Bloor/Yonge station to catch shuttle buses.

Woman: I’m telling you, all these people running, it’s like the Amazing Race.

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